“Are you hot?
Are you cold?
Are you wearing that?
Where’s your books and your lunch and your homework at?
Grab your coat and your gloves and your scarf and hat.
Don’t forget; you got to feed the cat!” (1)
Anita Renfroe wrote these catchy words for the song “Momisms”, sung to the
familiar tune of the William Tell Overture. Her words best describe a typical day of
mayhem through the eyes of a mother. Mothers who stay at home know that at times,
their lives can be discombobulating. Despite the chaos, stay-at-home mothers get the
tremendous responsibility of only having one chance of raising their children in such a
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(2) In this way, stay at home mothers can
It is disappointing when mothers are devalued for staying at home to raise their
children. Richard Lowry states, “There is something valuable in a mother’s caring for
her own child.” (4) In general, no one can take care of your child in the same way his or
her mother would. A mother’s care is usually superior to daycare since she naturally
wants what is best for her child. “According to a non-partisan Public Agenda survey in
2000, roughly 80 percent of parents with children five and younger say a stay-at-home
parent is best able to give children the “affection and attention they need.”” (qtd. in
A mother’s individual care can also curb the aggression that is evident in day
care centers. “A study done by the National Institute of Child Health and Human
Development (NICHD), reports that, kids in non-maternal care tend to be associated with
qualities such as “gets in lots of fights,” “cruelty,” “explosive behavior,” “talking too
much,” “argues a lot,” and “demands a lot of attention.”” (qtd. in Lowry 1) Teachers who
work in a preschool environment, like my daughter, are frustrated with how badly the
children usually behave. Workers in day care are governed by strict rules which prevent
disciplining children the way one can do at home. This causes a disregard and loss of
respect for others because many children grow up thinking they can do what they want.
Today, many of the younger generation act like they are owed something. In the
workplace, it is shocking to see the way they treat others with their degrading manners
and think there is nothing wrong with their behavior. They also tend to have lazy work
ethics and “cop an attitude” when asked to do anything extra. This makes it difficult for
many employers to find hard working and respectful employees.
It is important to note that not all children in daycare grow up to be aggressive
and unproductive adults. Even though many women in the work force find raising
children to be a very difficult task which leaves them feeling lonely and bored, they do a
fine job of balancing their jobs with raising successful children. These women enjoy
being able to show their children the advantages of working outside of the home. They
are able to “teach their children how to be independent, inquisitive, and ambitious”, as
well as “learn the value of personal fulfillment and goal setting.” (Karaim 1) Reed
Karaim also proclaims that, “successful working mothers give their children one of the
best gifts any parent can: the example of a life lived to its potential.” (3) I think that all
of these examples are helpful in raising successful children, however, I believe a stay at
home mom can also teach these same qualities in the home. I know this to be true
because I was fortunate to remain at home and raise my children. I was the one who was
the nurturer and demonstrated love and compassion to my...