Certain decisions can be difficult to make, but if it’s for the greater good of yourself or others, then it may be worth the ramifications. I have had to make a difficult decision that fits this criterion; it involves a group of friends in high school.
All the way from freshmen year of high school, I had a group of friends that I spent a lot of time with. This group includes very close friends that I still keep in good touch with today. However, in my senior year of high school it got to the point where some of my friends in this group began to do some illegal things. For example, a couple of them smoked marijuana frequently, and constantly tried to pressure me into doing it as well. Additionally, they went to parties that often had alcohol; and they would drink as well. I offered them advice on several occasions that they should not be using these substances.
When it comes to marijuana and alcohol, I am completely against it. I’ve never ...view middle of the document...
So one of the most difficult decisions of my life, I had to completely cut off these friends from my life. At the time, I wanted to turn back, and find a way to resolve it, but I realized that I had already tried long enough to resolve the problem; it was useless.
From this I learned that there are some people who will not respect your desires. It is actually a very good lesson that I learned, I now understand that even though I wasn’t able to resolve the situation, there are ways to cope with people who have different desires and don’t care about my own.
There was a lot to consider in making this decision. Firstly, would they even consider stopping smoking around me? Secondly, if I were to continue to hang out with them, would I eventually succumb to the peer pressure and go down the wrong path? Thirdly, was it possible for me to convince them to cease from smoking altogether? I realized that maybe I could’ve stopped them from smoking around me. However, I understood that I couldn’t make them stop smoking in general, and by default, there was a risk if I continued to hang out with them that I might get influenced to partake. So, the best decision to me at the time was to just completely cut them off as friends. I didn’t want to tell their parents or school officials because I didn’t want this to affect their college acceptances, or have it go on their record. The best I could do was to hope that they come to the realization that it was bad for them, and wish them the best.
In hindsight, I would make the same decision again. This is a special circumstance, and every circumstance should be handled accordingly. As an RA, it would be my job to protect my residents from any illegal activity occurring. At the position I was in, I had no influence in changing my friend’s opinions about their activities. However, as an RA, I will have the responsibility to prevent such situations as my own from happening. The responsibility that I will have to take on will require me to take more preventative measures and report to my supervisor, keeping them informed of any issues of concern that I witness working as an RA.