June 24, 2013
Essay #1: Saying “I Do”
What’s the first thing that pops into your head when you think “marriage”? Do you smell a home cooked meal waiting on the table, after a long-hard day at work? Do you picture a beautiful home with a white picket fence? Maybe you think about a gorgeous white dress, that was altered to fit you just right. Or maybe it’s not white at all because your favorite color is black, and you refuse to be cliché on what’s supposed to be the most important day of your life. Maybe you see half of everything you own being taken out from under you if this whole “marriage thing” goes south, and that’s just not a ...view middle of the document...
Everyone’s interpretation of marriage varies according to time, place, and experience. If asked to define a “perfect” marriage my first thought would be my great Grandparents, Minnie and Glen Truesdale. Married in 1937, they were happily married for thirty-two years and had three children together. I never got the privilege of meeting my grandfather, he passed away in 1969. My mother told me that he was one of the sweetest men you could ever meet and that she was his “favorite” grandchild. My great grandmother passed away in 2009 at ninety years old. My grandmother never re-married. As a matter of fact she lived alone for the rest of her days. I never even saw my Nanny with another man in the sixteen years I spent with her. I asked her one day “Nanny, why didn’t you ever get re-married?” And she said “Because I already am married, to your Grandpa, and we will be together again soon.” My Nanny was raised in a time where divorce wasn’t even considered, and being a faithful Christian as well, I know the idea would have never crossed her mind. The most important point to my story is this; my grandmother lived the last forty years of her life alone, dedicated to her late husband. She vowed to love, honor, and cherish for the rest of her days, and she did just that. As with anything in life with the positives, comes the negatives. So what do you do when things don’t go as planned? When you got married you were madly in love. Every moment spent with that person felt better than the last. When you looked into their eyes you could see the rest of your life. People change, you don’t appreciate each other like you used to because you forgot what life was like before he or...