4-MAT Book Review
In his book Dr. Wright begins by reciting a personal dilemma from the time when he was a youth pastor at his church. Throughout the book, he uses a Christian perspective on counseling reciting scenarios from his life to demonstrate the different concepts of counseling. Dr. Wright uses these situations. To teach the proper responses, to different crisis situations. When reading these situations, he wants us to “consider two important questions: How would you feel? What would you do or say?” (Wright, 2011, p.10). Wright describes how Jesus was an exemplary model of being compassionate, acceptant of others, giving people worth, meeting ...view middle of the document...
Being too empathic, “caring too much,” can lead to compassion fatigue (burnout). One way to prevent compassion fatigue is by asking for help yourself. A daily debriefing concerning the crisis can help deter burnout or a person could do as the author does and write out his/her experiences in longhand as a form of release. The author speaks of adopting the other person’s communication style to build rapport and trust. The author also describes destructive elements in counseling which include passivity, counselor dominance, self-disclosure, interrogation inappropriate patterns of response, false reassurance, judgment, inappropriate confrontation and pressure tactics, using these methods would be harmful and should be avoided.
Wright describes different types of loss, how to recognize each one, judging the impact of the loss, and ways to recover from the losses. He explains that the grieving process is necessary, and is different for everyone. Grieving is a normal process and is nothing is be ashamed of, and leads to recovery. Wright explains that while the word ‘crisis’ is not in the Bible, there are many accounts of crisis and uses the terms suffering, hardship, adversity, pain, trial, tribulation, test, persecution, and affliction. (Wright, 2011). He uses Paul’s state of crisis in Acts 9:1-9 as an example, of biblical crisis. He explains that crisis is something that is too great or overwhelming for a person to deal with on their own.
Wright describes the phases of a crisis with the first phase being the impact, the second phase is withdrawal-confusion, the third phase is an adjustment, and the fourth phase mentioned is reconstruction. The impact phase is when you first become aware of the crisis. The withdrawal-confusion phase is when the individual becomes withdrawn and/or confused concerning the crisis. The adjust phase is when you are trying to adjust to the crisis and begin to become objective concerning the crisis, the reconstruction phase is when they begin to rebuild their lives and move on.
Several years ago I lost my dad to a serious illness that resulted in the repeated transfers between the hospital and a long term care facility over a four month time period. I was repeatedly told that his chances of survival of this illness were positive, and the outlook for his future was encouraging. However, he repeatedly had setbacks, such as a major abdominal bleed, requiring surgery, when the incision from a peg tube was misplaced in his stomach, consequently ruptured and caused a major bleed causing an emergency situation. His blood pressure bottomed out, causing him to suffer a major stroke, his kidneys failed, making dialysis necessary to sustain his life, however because dialysis was so painful and draining to his weakened system, he became severely depressed and eventually lost his will to live. After four long months, that seemed like a lifetime, God took him home and ended his suffering. During this time, and since then I have...